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Should it stay or go? – DFP

Posted on October 13, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Perennials .

I don’t like daylillies. Never have.

Those less common and “more interesting” are nice, but still not my cup of tea. Sorry, not sorry.

Yet, I still have a bunch of these boring fellas who continue to reside in the garden. I’ve had them for over ten years now. The yellow blooms are BORING and kind of messy post bloom. All sorts of mushy and blech. But I keep them around because they do fill one purpose: They take up space, space I don’t have to concern myself with, space that is not covered in weeds.

But dude, did I mention they’re ugly? They do nothing for me. Look at this pathetic excuse for a “flower”.

They have to go, right? I’m better than that, right?

What would you do?

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Tags: daylily, ugly foliage .

Last one – DGP

Posted on October 12, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Blooms .

One last geranium bloom.

A reminder of once was.

Standing out amongst all the red, yellow, orange and gold hues that dominate.

A chance to reflect.

She’ll be back.

We’ll do this again soon.

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Tags: geranium 'brookside' .

The swing set – DGP

Posted on October 11, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Family, Uncategorized .

It might be time for it to go.

It was constructed in 2007. A friend drove his truck, equipped with the requisite tools, into the backyard. The advantage of living in the country with acreage.

Jamie was 1 and Jack 4. The cedar wood not only sparkled with freshness but it smelled great too. I recall swinging on it by myself that first night, staring back at our house with an overwhelming feeling of contentment.

We ate lunch together underneath the slide, until the bees inevitably arrived.

I taught them how to properly jump off a swing and captured action shots with my new camera.

We willingly played along when my son insisted we each needed to portray a different Wiggles character as we slid and as we swung. He was always Anthony, the blue guy, and I was jealous. Anthony was charming and witty and the best looking. I agreed to be Murray, the tall goofy red one.

My daughter had no fear as I continued to up how high I’d push her on the swing. A foreshadowing of our eventual shared love for rollercoasters.

We had a tradition of swinging together after midnight on New Year’s Eve. And never allowed the winter weather to stop us.

And then …

The cedar slowly faded from beige to gray.

The posts began to sink.

The chains rusted.

The weeds became too much to manage.

Other activities became a higher priority.

At one point I considered growing vegetables on vines around the entire structure as a means to give it a new purpose. But gave up after deeming it too much work.

We never celebrated a ceremonious last swing or last trip down the slide.

Both swing seats have busted in two and the entire playground is a hazard zone. One more wind gust and it may collapse upon itself.

I haven’t been able to bring myself to finish it off. I still enjoy it as a background feature in the backyard, remembering when. My last attempt to grasp on to their collective childhoods.

But it’s time. It’s time to move on. My son signed off. My daughter signed off. My wife signed off. And now I’m ready. I’m ready to burn the wood symbolically as we all sit around the fire and talk about impending graduations and future plans.

Although I did witness a red-shouldered hawk eating a snake on top of the swing set while working yesterday. After I had started this post. A sign to allow it to remain? Allow the birds to continue to hang there? Isn’t that what Mother Nature would want?

Hmm.

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Buttonbush Fall Color – DGP

Posted on October 10, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Fall color .

You know what I like besides puppies and peanut butter pretzels? I like surprises. Not a surprise party or surprise visit to my home. But genuine surprises where there aren’t people involved. Unless it’s my kids surprising me. In a good way.

Today’s surprise is courtesy of my Buttonbush (Cephalanthus occidentalis) ‘Sugar shack’. And that surprise is that it actually has some decent fall color. I didn’t know buttonbush fall color was a thing.

Buttonbush fall color

Maybe I missed it previously. This is an area of the garden I don’t frequent that much this time of year when it’s typically wet and I need me some decent galoshes to get there. But color me happy. I love the combo of the orange of the buttonbush and dark red of the Viburnum next door to the left. A blip in time, yes, but a fun and pretty blip at that.

Buttonbush fall color.

A nice surprise.

Tags: buttonbush .

Fall – DGP

Posted on October 8, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Fall color .

I’ve shared this photo a lot lately.

Sorry. But here it is again.

A perfect mash-up of dead, dying, aging gracefully. hanging on by a thread and thriving.

I love them all.

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I’m old – DGP

Posted on October 7, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Comedy .

Quick one today.

I was searching through my phone for a photo to use for today’s DGP (Daily Garden Photo) and came upon this pic below … four times.

It’s the screensaver on my iPhone that I apparently “screenshotted” four times in the past week. How I did this, I have no idea. Some sort of maneuvering as I maneuvered through my phone. The kind of thing an older individual who doesn’t understand technology does.

That’s me now.

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I don’t like it – DGP

Posted on October 5, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Fall color .

A realization today.

I don’t like the combo of the Obedient Plant (Physostegia) ‘Vivid’ and Amsonia hubrichtii, as seen below.

I despise the look of the bright purple against the yellow/gold fall color. It’s garish. It’s wrong. And now I have to use this off season to figure out what I’m going to do here. Most likely the Amsonia stays and the Physostegia gets relocated.

The struggle is real.

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Tags: amsonia, amsonia hubrichtii, obedient plant, physostegia 'vivid' .

Verbena – DGP

Posted on October 4, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Annuals, Blooms .

Verbena (aka Vervain) are the gift that keeps on giving. While it’s an annual here in my New Jersey garden (Zone 6B), it reseeds like a mutha f’er. I didn’t plant any Verbena this spring in the location shown in the photo below. They emerged on their own.

Verbena

As a result, I’ve developed a process when it comes to planting Verbena each year: Never repeat the same location. Once they’ve been planted somewhere, I know they’ll continue to return in that same spot, hence no need for overplanting. I just make sure it’s a locale that receives full sun and isn’t overly wet, which can be a challenge for me and my waterlogged clay soil. Deer/rabbits do nibble some but not enough to slow them down. And I’m sure I just jinxed myself.

FREE PLANTS PEOPLE!!

And as I mentioned in yesterday’s post, they continue to bloom here into October until that deep frost hits. A sad day yes, but I know they’ll be back.

Blooms for months.

Color for months.

Smiles for months.

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Tags: verbena .

Summer still here – DGP

Posted on October 3, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Annuals, Blooms, Summer .

There’s a battle going on in the garden right now.

On one side we have the fall foliage: the reds, the golds, the yellows, the scarlets and the browns.

On the other side we have the summer blooms holding on for dear life. Like in the photo below.

The Verbena and the Scaevola still blooming their heads off. On a day like today, where the temps reached 80 degrees, this scene still feels appropriate. And it will for the next few days as the heat sticks around.

But we all know, all it takes is one cold night and it’s gone.

I’m not ready for it to go yet.

Tags: scaevola, verbena bonariensis .

Ironweed in Fall – DGP

Posted on October 2, 2023 by jmarkowski Posted in Fall color, Perennials .

Well that escalated quickly. Just a few weeks back, these perennials were blooming a beautiful purple/blue and now, they’re not. Call me crazy, but I’m still a fan of the Ironweed in fall, even if the color has departed.

Ironweed in Fall

Those seed heads are handsome and I’ve got no issue with them falling off and going wherever they want to go.

Tags: ironweed, New York Ironweed .
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